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It doesnt mean hes thinking about taking a second wife. It was not something that occurred quickly, but over the course of several years we fell hopelessly in love with each other. God would not be ok with this garbage. Required fields are marked *. (this is all the Islamic opinion and Im simpy stating it from all schools of thought in Islam). also i think you should know that. But there is an entire SURAH! abstaining from sins and evil deeds, and by performing righteous good Sura Nisa Chapter 4. Answering your question, Sheikh M. S. Al-Munajjid, a prominent Saudi Muslim lecturer and author, states: wslm so true,lol you cant change a man if he doesnt want too change.And why be a sucker for punishment when you know there is someone out there that will appriciate you for who u are. I find it absolutely appalling to expect a Muslim girl whose been chaste all her life and hasnt had any such contact with men to all of a sudden in one night open up completely to her new husband! Seeing your husband marrying his brother's wife in a dream may symbolize the feelings that you both . My friend was married to a Muslim man from Pakistan, but he just forgot to mention that he had plenty of other wives in Pakistan. No sister, theres no proof of any such against the man. I agree with sara that certain parts of the article are rubbish. With a marriage will create offspring and kinship ties. Allaah says If a women refuses to comfort her husband, its like the husband refusing to provide for or protect his family because he isnt in the mood of doing so. Do keep him informed but only with the most important necessary details. Honestly speaking? Id understand if it were for a womans survival purposes but never for pleasure. arent they all superficial? I would say some of the sisters plz know the different between yr opinion and the prove of the hathis or the quran, what you think doesnt matter what matter is what allah say. I could see some poor girl who is being abused reading that and validating herself and coming back for more. Mashaa Allaah,this was a pleasant article to read. Asalam o Alakum And to end it with go make me a sandwich? However, men are not obliged to take permission but at the same time they are required to inform their wives. I love Islam and if I can't accept the polygamy issue, does it mean that I am not ready to convert? I am a woman in my 30s with 1 child. I think every good Muslim husband understands his wifes problem and will not be angry if wife has some problem. I agree with her. Most of comments are pointing to second marriage and bla bla. Salaam to all Muslim brothers and sisters who are reading this article and its forum. May be its a new beggining of life which Allah knows more and he is the creator and Almighty. Kudos to the author. what I have noticed from the hadith When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. Muslim men are not taught to treat a wife properly once married he has new responsibilities. It is narrated from Imm as-diq (as): Three ladies went to the Prophet (S) to complain. then how does looking and thinking of other women makes it completely normal and natural and unsinnful? It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. I am shocked by this backward/baseless thinking. And if she isnt IN love with U it doesnt mean she cant be commited and faithful. We are a happy couple and have a beautiful family life. Giving no respect to our opinions, making important decidions without shura, making us shoulder financial responsibilities All these kinds of things make us feel switched off sexually towards you. The Quran does state that the husband is allowed to take up to four wives but only if he has the means to provide for them. If you dont then dont expect much from him. CULTURE, people mix Islam with their culture, Islam does not teach a man to not communicate with his wife. He told me that his first wife knows that he is intending to marry again but that she is obviously not supportive of the idea and that he doesnt know what her reaction will be when he tells her that he had found someone. Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. We do not like our father to have another wife, women also hate their husbands to marry again but thats because it is no longer part of todays lifestyle in many societies but if people get used to it as for example if every one have more than a wife then it will not be a big deal I think. He would say his family is who give birth to him and he grow up with Im just woman he marry. The problem is men hide their second marriage from their first wife which itself is a evidence of unjust behaviour which means he shouldnt go for second marriage as he is unable to do justice. You cant know this because no one knows whats in the mind of every man. Men are just not that good at showing emotion (unless were talking sports or politics). Thanks. And men have all and every right to get married 4 times if he can afford it remember ladies , no he doesnt need permission from you but its better you discuss about it . Or why is polygamy allowed in Islam? i am also a muslim girl..we had physical relationship on one day.but still i am virgin.he said before that we can marry if our parents allows.but now he dont want to marry me as his parents dont allow him to do..but now they agree.but he is saying that let us go two ways..not to make the parents sad..,how can i marry other person without telling him and cheating. Allaah has made the wife a covering for her husband and has made the husband a covering for his wife. Roles of man and wife are divided in Islam. From hubby n my in-laws also. Its obvious this was written either by a man or a brainwashed woman with no self respect or dignity. I hate my life ever day. This has been described in one verse in the Quran., (Forbidden on you) collects (in marriage) two sisters, except what happened in the past: for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Verse 4: 23), 17. Praise be to Allah. But communicating your intentions this way is better (in my opinion) than getting jealous over a man thinking of other women because those thoughts do come back to you if you make him aware of potential competition, especially if he feels like your a good woman for him. I dont know. Second wife! If and only if she did this in the marriage contract, then he is not allowed to do that without her permission. I wouldnt allow my future husband to marry a 18 never married single gal, but if hes going to marry a widow, a divorced or older lady who couldnt get married, then maybe, maybe we can talk about him getting a second wife. Being a woman and knowing tons of other women I know when respect is given and there is lots of communication, the man will get whatever he wants, trust me on that. How about us woman looking at other man at some point in our lifes?.. He was a good person, good akhlaq and very pious. Its halal but the man has to live up with it. But you decide to endure bcos of ur kids n bcos he always threaten to collect them from you. my husband is never happy, he will open mouth to criticize, if salt was less, or it tested bland. The Truth is, one who does an atoms weight of evil,will see it. In the vast majority, the person either gets married or performs illicit sex or indulges in other sexual perversions. Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not practical Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty million more females in USA who would not be able to get husbands (considering that America has twenty five million gays). relationships such as marriage. This was shockingly one sided. 14. should be noted that many marriages that are based on love are doomed to This is an old post, I am not sure what is your situation now. (interpretation of the meaning): Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in The hadith regarding this matter says fair treatment. This is the silliest thing Ive read in awhile. Clearly, your husband did a harmful, immature, and unhealthy thing. and the worst (halal) thing in marriage is divorce..correct me if im wrong anyone! I find this to be one of the most unsettling parts of Islam. It is up to the couple. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. If it dont kill you then it can only make you stronger!!!! But remember what they doing is wrong. Some scholars do not consider it an obligation for the husband to inform his wife of another marriage. She will ONLY be cursed if her husband is angry. Uncover Hidden Dream Meanings. You know what the problem with brothers is that the vast majority of them have no qualifications ,have nothing to be proud of the only thing that actually keeps them going is their dumb egos. Women indeed isnt something sex slave,and if she denies to have then whats the big deal? According to it:- When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. Below here are the following hadith and Quran that shows 17 Islamic rules for second marriage. She cries every time they have intercourse and are intimate. asalamu alaikum, O ye who believe! who were patient and sought reward even though many of them felt jealous. Why is a man allowed to marry more than one wife in Islam? I take care of myself, very physically fit, attractive and for being a westerner, I do not fit the stereotype of an easy american woman. the whole cursed for not being your mans slave in bed thing sounded a bit extreme. If you want more advice on marriage watch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf6B4xk3kcI by Yasir Qadhi. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. This is a wonderful piece Masha Allah to whoever posted this. The hadith is not carte blanche for a man to come every night and request sex and then when refused hold this over her head. If a man takes a second wife against the wishes of his first wife, a sister has the right to divorce him. O ye who believe! tell him. Is there a special reward in this case, or is it the same reward for all women who obey their husbands and make their religious duties? Shaina i advice u 2 believe totally in Allahs word otherwise u will be among unbeliever, Allah as d creator know what is good us, Man are allow 2 marry more than one wife and we all see how female are very very Plenty than male i pray u will not be among 39 or 40s years ladie who av not sure of a particular man. There needs to be an article about what men can do for their wives bcz Im sick and tired of reading any more tripe as to how I can better serve a man. and trial for her, and if she bears that with patience she will have the you dont have to be a muslim wife to do these just a wife..it goes without sayingmarriage is a commitment for life thats just me personallyy.if you cant ..then dont get married..im a catholic and my fisnce is muslim ..hes s just the same with a non muslim guy.hes a man he has a needs and when you love someone..you will do anything to keep him happy im not even his wife yet and im doing that already. Just to forgive and make sandwich? (i.e. We're best friends who can talk about anything with each other. There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women. Sharing his love, his smiles, his jokes with a woman other than myself. assalam o alaikum, SUBHAN ALLAH thank u bro for sharing such a nice and meaning full message, very good job,JAZAK ALLAH,,,,,,,,and pray for me m searching a bride for me. Today, if any western research say that dont refuse your husband for sex if he wants to and researcher may give any xyz reason, then it will not be ridiculous and unsettling part of Islam. jazakallahu khayr. Because deep down, we really just want to make you happy. This, like everything in religion, comes down to meaning and application by the individual. Women are more loyal and giving than the person that wrote this article thinks. decreed jealousy for women and jihad for men, so whoever bears that with His duty is to protect and provide for the family, even if the wife is stronger and wealthier. Allah knows best! family life, and the man wishes for a wife with whom he can live in peace, I so desperately wanted it to work out. Allaah says What about 7 things your wife wont tell you? Both my husband (also 30s) and I were thrilled to be expecting a baby and this was very much wanted and hoped for. The destiny which almighty Allah has written for you in this life, The test he would put a person to see his or her patience. i am conservative about my appearance and how I dress. Your husband is a human not an animal. 2) It clearly says if the man sleeps angry, then she will be cursed. How many of us men are amirs or princes living a lavish lifestyle. And dont be so quick to nag him about the things he doesnt do right. If you are living off her money. Not to insult, I didnt mean it like that. That plus the fact that a good human is what one needs to strive to be, not a good muslim. One of the purposes of getting married is to protect the private parts. (3) Dispute over marriage between the lady and her husband.. Marriage contract involving an unidentified woman: Death, if the.In general, the marriage of a married woman, or of . will question you on the Day of Resurrection? I pray to Allah Taaalaa that he gives us all the understanding of how a true Muslim should behave and that he forgives us all for all the wrong we have done in life, allowing us to die with strong Imaan and in the end enter us into Jannatul Firdaus. I need my wife to take care of me as mentioned. I will not stand for it! So unmarried women are public property? Hindus are more polygamous than Muslims The report of the Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66,67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages between the year 1951 -1961 was 5.06 among the Hindus and only 4.31 among the Muslims. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Its ridiculous. Why do you think men like buying women gifts? assalam alaikum I need to correct you , you cannot say you disagree with something because it doesnt suit you or you dont like it; If one partner doesnt want to be in this relation then nothing can stop that person from destroying his or her house. In the hadith of Abu Dawud below, it is narrated. He was kind and gentle with them. He is a beautiful soul! i`m sleeping alone. ISLAM QURIAN is d manual 2 better and peaceful live . (interpretation of the meaning): They are Libaas [i.e. I am a muslim man. They should also be told to be content with one wife and pray more and ask Allah for peace of mind and heart. tj. Disclaimer:The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information provided in the question. And Allah Knows Best. There is no other option. Because then hell start feeling that you dont respect (theres that word again) the things he does do for you. Why only wife has to live her whole life with only sabr and pain.of husbands second marriage? Wel then his only after one thing isnt he This is a very great blessing indeed, which is not appreciated by sis i am so sorry that you are going through this : ( May Allah reward you for your strength and improve your situation ameen. Can I marry her? i) If he feels that his sexual desires may lead him to sins(sex out of marriage and all the things that come with it). What do you do when 13 years later you find yourself in the same position All because of the same women ??? You will find the strength IA. Because I love him too much but he loves the 2 nd wife only. Why should a nice type Muslim sister be patient when her husband is verbally or even physically abusive, emotionally distant, selfish, childish an narcisstic? Some of us are fortunate enough and some of arent. Allah, Most High, does not command that a married couple love each other. This is a great article about men and how to keep your husband happy but why is there never any mention of how to keep a woman happy and what a man can do for a woman? Ameen. the loves comes from ALLAH. Whatever you decide to do (leave him or try again), may Allah guide you towards the right path and give you happiness. Yell and scream at her. I follow all the rules mentioned above. I do not deserve this treatment. Subhanallah! He Loves You, Even If He Doesnt Always Show It Hmmm! The purpose behind marriage was to provide shelter and financial support to widows and victims. Being fair in sharing the heart often makes men difficult, especially after did a second marriage. I have read it myself. It would be something very difficult to come to terms with, I agree but this life is a test and through the difficulties we encounter and how we deal with them will determine our station in the akhira. I cant be selfish on this when it comes to second marriage & indeed Ill try to fix issues instead of going for second thought. Knowledge of these matters. the holy quran declares that Allah subhana allah wa taaal permits him to take up to four wives as long as he gets all the necessary protocol boxes ticked. 5.Do you expect that trust will May Allah forgive you, Salam, You cannot say Im a muslim but I dont agree to polygamy. Etc. Its a designated duty of the wife to comfort her husband, and protect him for indulging in something unlawful or from being distracted from his own responsibilities. It cannot be said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as compared to a Muslim who has only one wife. Surely if you love your wife you do not do that. Does their feelings dont count anymore? Mashallah very interesting and thoughtful quotes. Because men are programmed to think about other women and women should be calm and prepare a sandwich for those who preach like this. I have just remarried another wonderful man. I have to stay with my parents. (4) Will give birth to virtuous children. But this year, he told me many lies. ruling can be based. since its Allahs will and polygamy is halal. However, in most cases, when the secret is revealed, the wife never accepts the situation nor forgives the husband. We want a gorgeous hero for a husband ad much ad you want a gorgeous wife. There would be more than four million females in Great Britain 5 million females in Germany and nine million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband. i dont want to leave him.and i can make my parents me to marry him.but he is not ready for thatwhat will i do? I dont need any more excuses for inconsiderate behaviour, I have plenty from a lifetime of society-at-large encouraging me to be aggressive and violent. remember allah never brings more to a person they can cope with or carry. i used to kiss his feet,smell his pillow n shirts ,took care of his mom n welcomed his relatives.n now theres nothing but hurt n ppl tell me to 4give.HELL!!! the second wife got baby. Having dinner & lunch with your wife together makes her feel more special too. 3.If this young man were to get We are all human and built that way. Purpose just to get back at one another. In the very same verse it is stated clearly that if a man cannot treat his wives with equity, he should not marry more than one woman. Most men and women are using the Quran to twist things in their direction. (3) Dispute over marriage between the lady and her husband. Your husband needs to know that youre going to be by his side if: You should be loyal to your husband before everything else except Allah and His Messenger (pbuh). Please advise me. Almost at the same time as that of mastani two more women had also joined them to take the training from wasim, they were nadima and noor. Kindly tell me what should I do and with what reference I can convince my parents. Im not saying you should share your husband but if men want to take other wives then they can and we cannot put conditions on them that Allaah did not. The purpose behind multiplr marriages was to help and sehlter war victims or widows. Some things may be hard to swallow for us women, but Allah swt Created us this way, so rather empower yourself with this knowledge and understanding, than bemoan and question the way of things. I dont know what happened to the women and children. Though Islam permits man to have more than a wife, it stipulates that certain conditions are to be met in this regard, for Islam's main focus is on building a stable marital life. He fears he will become schizophrenic. When he returns home, give him some time to relax and settle before you throw all your daily small issues at him. Dont keep threatening him with words, you need to show you mean it and do it. The bottom line though is I like ur article. These doubts will persist and will be a cause of anxiety for I am a guy, and for many reasons I have always wanted only one wife. 5. These women truly are the best among us, because it is such a hard and difficult thing to do. To those of you brothers who work at trying to be kind, considerate and loving to your wives, may Allah give you an enormous reward. i agree with u kay. The idea, that he or she is not going to stick by you.Im not talking about infidelity. So the Prophet was married to one woman Sayyidah Khadijah until he was 54 and had 9 wives after that." (Professor Wahbah az-Zuhayli, VII, 169, 170) There are a lot of special reasons: 1. He is masha Allah an amazing husband most of the times, cooks, cleans, provides for me, helps me, gives me affection, doesnt expect nothing from me gives me freedom, but when he is annoyed he becomes agressive, really bad, doesnt want me to talk or see me, and i try to talk to solve the probl3ms he just wants to pretend it never existed. So my long question is, is what I am doing wrong and how can I control my desires so as to please Allah. High regard for women you have there. I typed this up on my phone. i am being courted by a muslim man, and so far i find it a bit interesting i never knew someone like himhe claims he loves me and cant live w/out me, but he asked me this question, what if there was 2 of us? As per my perception this article is for people who understands it or try to, leaving arrogance behind far away. Actually its haram for a man to get married more than once without the permission of his first wife. Men really desire sex. If hes doing his best to take care of you. Ishmael and I met in 2018 on Muzmatch, a dating app for Muslims. Both were married too. This is the first time in the 20 years that I have known him where I have been at a loss for words. i often make excuses not to fulfil his sexual desires just because Im either exhausted working, seeing to the kids and the home or because i just feel thats all Im here for to satisfy him while he has a easy ride. I have a lot more to say but I feel I have said enough. Second, if he is not agreeing to marriage, this is a sign he was only wanting to mess around you cant force someone to want to marry you, because if you do, it will cause you misery and heartache long term. - Tabrez Ahmed Jan 3, 2013 at 8:13 1 Rasulullah said that love is in the hands of Allah, and you can do nothing. May Allah bless you both. Assalamu alaikum There are a million and one articles online written by non-Muslims that say the same thing. For instance, if the second marriage is likely to upset the first marriage and the family structure already established, then a second marriage should be avoided, as it undermines the very purpose of the Islamic rules of marriage. Thwart the plans of the shaytaan by not letting this young If both the partners realize that & aim to make their marriage successful with love, respect & loyalty they wouldnt need to throw back and forth the Hadiths and Quranic verses just to be one up on the other. Men are always looking 4 sex..thats y they go to other women.so provide him a good sex.he will never ever go to any other girls, You should consult a muslim imam.in islam its is forbidden to do sex without marriage. Salamualaikum wa rahmatuLlahi wa barakatuh. They just need to make sure they are financially, physically and mentally capable of doing so, and if they dont then Allaah will question them about it. I felt contrite, I felt that because I did not give another woman a chance, a space in my life, that Allah will punish me this time around. Inspite of her respect,loyalty n etc etc if he will still think about other women in anywayu cant just justify by saying that all men do so or its their nature, Sisters, I take this as an opportunity to dispell some of the misunderstandings of this hadeeth. Its not just men. Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. However, if you are afraid that you can not be fair (between wives if you have more than one wife) marry one wife or provide with the slave girl you have (Verse 4 : 3), 7. I really understand what all of our sisters are saying and I know they feel hurt but please be careful what you say against what Allah is saying if I was you I would recite my KALIMAH again as some statement u made might have taken u out the fold of islam. I agree with Kay and I am a muslim Man. Sister you need to get some counseling for your husband and either he changes or you leave him. The Law of Allah(swt) is complete in every aspect. assalamualaikum,, I not married as yet but I see so much truth in this article by examples of those married or who has been married around me. well said KAY i totally agree with you. Just because your husband doesnt treat you in the way (you think) the Prophet (pbuh) treated his wives, doesnt mean your husband doesnt love you. He already has permission From his lord with stipulations. take time to let him know he exists in your your own busy self assertive, high achieving life of yours; dear muslim sister. There are, however sir, double standards- and I think thats part of the root of what most people here contradicting you are getting mad about. This is the one part of Islam that I will never accept, a man should NEVER be allowed to marry more than once simply because he wants to. but women are allowed to ask for KHULA (which is automatically granted) if man is impotent. (Narrated by Muslim). I want to ask I got married 3 months back with a man whom I hated the most. I cant love him and give him what he wants. yeah sure , hell like that. We dont need a list like this from some fool to tell us how to treat our husband or future husband. Sex releases stress. People want things their way with other people so will only use that part of Islam that suits them. Any true Muslim woman that follows the Quran and not her husbands list of expectations would know how to treat her husband, a stupid list like this is not even necessary. Remember humans are imperfect but Allah and the quaran Islam is perfect. Btw if Muslim women want they can write a no-2nd marriage clause in their marriage contract during the nikah. This is not an issue for me personally, but I really find this to be incredibly sexist (no pun intended) and its as if the womans feelings are totally unimportant when her husband is horny. He never mentioned a second wife again and I was happy with that. 3) Its one of the things that will actually also keep the man satisfied. What should I do. So for example if he chooses to take a second wife he must ensure that the rights of both wives are fulfilled. guarantee that it will not happen again? I again put this in my nikkah. 3. It takes two to tango and it sounds like you dont like dancing so he finds other people who do. How can something as superficial as growing a beard be a sign of a better muslim? patience out of faith and in the hope of reward will have a reward like that Soon all went to waste and we started losing everything one by one. The question is, how do his parents need support and why is getting married in Egypt going to fulfill that? Our prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) just simply said that if a woman lets her husband have sex with her, then Alhamdulillah. foundation, not on a foundation of pleasing Allaah and His Messenger When was the last time a man was questioned about his wifes happiness? All that guy did was take money from my friend, travel abroad to visit his wives, and then dump her when she found out about all his wives. Advertisement cookies are used to provide visitors with relevant ads and marketing campaigns. I felt I could cope with not having someone around all the time," she tells me. This may be found out by researching about the man and asking his friends and neighbours, and the imam of his mosque; you should not base your decision on emotions or unverified claims. @asiangirl There is a hadith for that actually. In Islam, men are taught from a young age that they are supposed to be the bread-winners and caretakers of their families. Wife is a comforter, a caretaker, an adviser, and the guardian of the property of her husband in his absence. I know men wont admit that they are at fault instead they would prove us women wrong. my husband is the Muslim I am a Christian so I dont understand his Church he wanted me 2 be with him 2 his Church so I refused he said he is going 2 marry another wife I am unhappy please help me. May Allah grant you ease in your affairs ameen, Salam Everytime it isnt a happy hour to spend. 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