Hes a cheater! He has sincerely told me he loves me, is still in love with me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. pls anyone help me reply me. I guess when he stops providing Ill probably lose interest in staying with him. Thats sick and twisted, and it happens all too often! He may feel he has lost you and if you are on pain pills everyday, then he has lost you. Because i dont want to catch anything n i love him but i dont want to keep living like this. We are always together and never like being apart. When women suspect their man is cheating, the first mistake they make is launching a fact-finding mission. Your honesty will help other wives deal with their husbands lying and cheating. 3 third times a charm right. So today I do not understand why he wants to risk it while hes also trying to work it out with his wife? He had changed so much after the night he went out with her. He has had a phone relationship. did you ever just take it? Some of the things that he has done are repeat things like washing his clothes when gets home, he never washes his own clothes ever. The man is trying like Hell to cheat on you. I feel that, instead of seeing how they react during, watch them afterwards. He ofcorse acted as if it was nothing so i could him it made me feel uncomfortable. Maybe certain questions ? The internal struggle , the tug of war between disgust-rage-pain-humiliation- rejection and fear- love- desire- want- need is enough to kill you. Its a terrible situation to be in. An incident happened this weekend and I wantnto get your opinion on this. He goes to bed. Never do this! what is the best way to find out the truth? Im constantly searching for clues. ? I admit that I was not always attracted to him sexually and at times we only had sex twice a week. What you observe and what your boyfriend says to you isnt as important as what your spidey senses are telling you. Since then they have both been very sneaky and then some I ask Him why this and why that then? I felt like the STUPIDEST woman alive!! Hi I am not married, but i have been in a relationship for almost 4 years now. So we went through a bump but sorted it out, I forgave him because it was in the past and we stayed together. Its pathetic and sad. My boyfriend of 3 years has always been a very loving and sensitive partner. Its just who he is and unfortunately Im learned to accept that. Be strong sweetie. When I talked to him about this I didnt get the sense that he was lying. We live with my parents currently and I know hes not happy here (my parents are not the easiest people to live with not to mention we pay half the bills and are pretty much stuck in one room) and lately I have had this feeling that he has cheated on me. And I want the shiny red shoes now, that feel a little uncomfortable & a bit too brightbut Im going to wear them because they make me smile & laugh!! I dont have a good feeling. He was surprised, and hurt that I would entrap him. I dont like his job because he has accepted gifts from other women and is a server at an asian restaurant. My family says i should get a divorce and i am now thinking the same thing. Big mistake. Nou def shouldnt believe himonce a cheater, always a cheater in most cases. We texted frequently enough. She was fully clothed, just a selfie of herself. So he stood and never really apolygized. The only reason I found out was because I accidentally stumbled across the messages. Listen to your gut. He will buy a new fragrance or go shopping for new clothes. I guess maybe that shows youre not alone your husband isnt the only one who could be lying about cheating. Hi, im mindy im 19 and a newlywed we have been married for 3 months now, during the short period of time there has been phone calls from girls From chat lines and hes lied to me about this one girl on Facebook sayin shes a lesbian but yet he messages her saying whats up wit ur sexy a$$? He wasnt treating me like before. 5 Signs, 5 Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting, Are You in Love With a Married Man? He always go to work even weekends. You need to realize first of all there are children involved! The supply, putting people on pedestals, no empathy, no remorse, impulsive, full of shame, lack of responsibility , he is jealous of my accomplishments , envious, very envious and resentful. All I can do is give you a few things to think about, and encourage you to talk to a counselor or friend that you trust. I dont know what to do , im a stay at home mom of 3 young children, I need to make the right decision for me and for them. You express yourself quite well. They dont typically do it to have a brood of offspring from different menalthough that might be a part of the reason at a subconscious level. Her husband was a drug user and cheater. This may not be the case. at his work place. Hi all, I am with my husband since we were teenagers (17 years now) and married 7 years we have no kids. I am sick of the lies and the sad part is he almost had me buying his lies. just spruce your self up. I dont know what else to do!!!! The first step is finding trust in yourself. You are a woman, you have control in the end. Hi my name is April. he feels he was perfectly justified, and finds it absolutely unacceptable that i dont accept that he communicated with her at all hours, that he kept things a secret, that he ran off to meet her whenever she demanded etc etc. Our daughters age. Well needless to say last year the day after my daughters one year birthday party I found out that this woman was pregnant by my boyfriend. But.my heart is broken into a million pieces whenever I think of this, I am a pretty attractive girl, in a decent shape and do everything he asks me sexually. Theyll already wonder where their dad is, and a crying mom will only worry them. I really resented the idea that she seemed to be placing herself of great importance and was really his Number One Girl and I was some kind of consolation prize. Perhaps he cheated because he felt you withheld sex; however, youre likely going to want to work at your marriage before youre intimate with him again. When you ask people for advice, you are asking them to judge your situation. Required fields are marked *. He says he was depressed in him being molested once by his older brother.i just found this out. He never did. If you feel like your man is a lying cheat, look for signs to see if he falls in the catagory of NARCISSISM. I know its wrong to go through his phone but I had a gut feeling that this was going on I dont know what to do or how to confront him about this. Get out. He reacted instantly saying hed forgotten and reached up to the closet, and produced these beautiful, sexy clothes hed bought me, and a bottle of my new favorite perfume. My wife told me (a few times actually) I dont mind if you cheat on me, just make sure I never find out, I think the really point here is dont make me FEEL like you are. If he is involved with someone the investigator will find out within the first week which means you wont have to shell out a lot of money. Just remember, if Jay-Z can cheat on Beyonc, then any man has the capability to cheat. Woman, you need to pack his stuff up and send him to the left! He had the ring on the finger, true, but you have no morales if you cheat with him. He did not answer his phone, so I called her phone and asked where he was. So, your future husband may not be lying about cheating (unless of course you believe that visiting a cheating website is cheating, which I do). You have to protect Yourself, as he seems to be giving you mixed feelings. Hi, I read your comments and stories and i just want to share mine. (He has a very chill job and usually wore sweats) well Up until 3 weeks ago. Patty get your kids and get OUTTA THERE!!!! His name might be on the deed but it was his that choose to cheat, so it should also be him that goes to stay in a hotel. A piece of advice i know its hard to deal this kind of situation but you need to be more patient. They come into the house as soon I leave and they soil the bed lenons they tear my stuff up and steal whatever they can. I have been married for 5 years. He came out and told me he apologized said it was only one time and he felt so bad afterwards he didnt know what to do. I know these arent healthy reasons to stay, but knowing he has Narcisstic Behavior Disorder, makes it easier. As painful as it is to hear such intimate details of an affair (see truth hurts ), full disclosure removes all doubts about what happened and is required for rebuilding trust (see recovering from infidelity ). I hope you do. Am I jumping the gun here? I found out while I was at church on Sundays he was at her house, smoking crack, helping her with bills, bringing her to the laundry matt, etc. I broke it off. If you have children, you do not want to show them this as an acceptable way to treat people, or allow yourself to be treated. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Laurie .-= Laurie Pawlik-Kienlens last blog post10 Tips for Impressing a First Date by Cooking Dinner at Home =-. Baloney. The more they know you suspect or know the more they will try and hide it and the harder it will be for them to get caught! My husband travels for work and at the moment is traveling more because of a project he was nominated to be in. I just want him to be honest. He swears im the only woman he loves and wants. Ever, even when we were on the outs. While Im in pain he continues to talk to her and other females he continued for another month he stop when he felt like it he did not stop because it hurt me Ive thought about leaving Im learning how to forgive slowly.. but i do not forget.. I only knew 1 of the girlsshes 19, young and ditzy and she introduced me to the others but this new best friend thinks that I am the rudest person shes ever met because of the hospital incident. We are now on the process of getting a divorce. Was never really a caring parent. I was doing christmas. Do you realy want to do this, those are the question you should ask yourself also? The same country he was last stationed, so he could get his stuff and orders. I eventually get pregnant for the 3rd time with our daughter who is now going on 4 months. Anyhow, any man that cheats while his partner is pregnant simply cannot be called a man. My Mother passed away only last week and now I have this to deal with. So him and this guy was curious I guess. The way you apporach a man about it is not accusing, however actually asking him why? Sounds to me like you DO have proof and you are in denial. It sounds that way on a lot of these comments actually. The blaming me part, denying everything until you find out. Id really appreciate it thank you. As a christian you should tell the truth and who know the truth may set eveyone free and you can have him. Power, opportunity, money increases testosterone. Love yourself! We were in our teens when we got married and I do believe he loves me. So this first girl, I assume they met in the beginning of this year. We are married for 4 years, but we are together for 7 years. Your grandma on your moms side? And Signs He Does, Why Do Guys Like Anal? One evening I went to a local store and I saw his large work truck parked there and her van was parked just behind him. Weve been together for 12 years, and he was my first, so I was not so much hurt as afraid that I would never be able to stand up on my own two feet if he leaves. Something was different. We had almost no physical intimacy (holding hands, kissing, etc) 4. You will also want to consider that opening a relationship with another man out of hurt or frustration will cause further damage to your relationship and make you look bad in the end regardless of what he has done. And talk to him. I was starting to get suspicious so I then asked my friend Amy if she would take me to her place to see if she had gotten home okay and to convince me that I am just scared of getting hurt again by another man. If you have family or friends that can help and be supportive in the meantime while you try and get things together so that you can stand on your own 2 feet, that is something you should really consider. I believed and trusted him. On my way in I ran in to a mutual friend who asked me where my husband was. He did all the bull.. your crazy that woman is a whore. In my opinion hearing it from him myself is the only sense of relief you'll get. If youre still struggling after a time, its more than likely that your marriage cannot be saved. He wouldnt talk to me for 10 days. We allow things and behavior we know that we should not. @ Eya, I hear youyou make some good points.. and yes, it is my feeling that he has cheated on me, even if only emotionally but just to clarify some maybes you mentioned: It was certainly not his dream job thats for sure. Yes, it will be horrible to hear but, when it comes to unfaithfulness, its best to know everything. Song Title: What did I do? hear @ URL: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZp8u_vGgYo, My hubby is chreating,I know he is lieing to my face.I know I been cheating on him. That he wasnt happy etc. (he is dead wrong) Im tired of being tired of being tired ,he causes so much stress .he tells me all the time that he does nothing to hurt me and to see the women on his viewed post nothing but bold face lies . And this hurts me so bad that it is destroying me as a person and a mother. how old is the kids to acept daddy is not with us? He said a woman at work pulled her pants down in front of him and he thought about itnow when he kisses me or we are intimate it feels different and also wants me to do things a certain way or differentim not sure how i should feelfyi what ever hes wanted to try i was more than willing but all of a sudden im not doing enough.i would love your advice. If he disrespects you, that is his bad and in him. Feel free to share your stories and suspicions below! I love him so much. And, why even ten years later does it become so important to know if he had sex? We all are asking the same question why ???? Driver calls this the belly button rule.When were telling the truth and are with people we like, admire, and trust, we face our belly buttons towards them. Im glad you spoke up! Then, we broke it off for about 9 mnths, for other reasons, and in the meantime, she moved to where we live because this is where she is originally from and she and her husband divorced. All of this happened 2 years ago after we had our baby. Thanks for the book suggestion! It hurts me to read everyones storiesbut I have to say, it did help knowing there are others, like myself, that are going through very similar situations. So later also in workig hours he gets a text from his brother, I open it and its more pornographic videos. We have 2 children together which are now teens. hi! When I confronted him he told me you are going to believe her instead of me? He has told you what he needs to consider the situation - respect that and give him space instead of forcing him to deal with the hurt at your pace and insistence. We go out of town from time to time for training. Thank you for your comments. did you not say anything and sneak around looking for a unknown mistress? I found texts from a local number talking about hooking up. 2. He doesnt run away when I bring things up but I can tell he doesnt really want to talk about it either yet he listens and doesnt get crazed. 5 years after, for this year to be exact, i happened to brows his facebook history, there i saw that hes been checking her facebook profile almost every month but when i confronted him, he didnt get angry but told me that there was nothing between them. I dot want to tell him that I have been on his messages and skype, I know I crossed the line. I wish this could be shown to all women considering having a relationship with a married man. Now that his horrible step-father is dead, my husband has all those awful weeds coming up fom all the dysfuntion. but im learning to be happy with myself, my 2 boys and have good friends :) if yall hear me! I said..why cant you date me NOW! Well I posted a Meme on my snapchat saying its sad we live in a generation where a female will pass up on a single man just to pursue a married man bc she likes the way he treats his wife. other woman: No I havent but, my boss has already given me those days off. The majority of women Ive had sex with were married or in a LTR. Witch makes me think if hes having a affair that its not physical but emotional. Trust me, there is a man for you. Hes asked what can he do to fix this. This will hurt, but it is good for you, as youll want to know all that that hes been up to whether its emotional cheating with messaging, just meeting for drinks and kissing or whether its turned into a full sexual affair. You seem to be a very loving person, with hopes for a wonderful family. To avoid a confrontation. Signs your relationship is over, plus help deciding how to move on after a breakup. Then from activity log I can see who he sent friend requests, who he deleted. i pushed him out from my flat and he kick the door and got broken. After few months passed i heard the mother of his 2 children is pregnant for him. This is not the first time that Ive caught him texting/ flirting with other women. I have asked him multiple times if I was what he really wanted and if I wasnt I would be okay with it. I understand your pain and where I dont have any answers for you, I do have my own story. I will pray for God to give you strength. Still havnt gone on a date that hes planned. you dont like the guy? Be wise. Its not only in the nature of man to have multiple partners. because Ive been cheated on and I know how it feels. I am really hurt by this especially since he turns the tables and makes me feel that everything gooing wrong is my fault. Example: Ill bring many smiles to your life. Please dont. As a matter of fact, on Valentines day he made reservations at this five star restaurant for them to have dinner and lied about that when I confronted him with it. Id also like to add that therapy and books are wonderful way to get insight on this issue but a real discussion is much more effective with people who dont know you personally and will not be bias or possibly because you are paying for their expertise. If he doesnt live with you, ask him to go back to his own apartment in order to give yourself space to think. this set off many alarms. Always believe your husbands nonverbal cues, especially if you suspect hes lying about cheating. I applaud you for even. No he has a secret password for his phone. We split up for over a month 2 this day I do not no were he stayed during that time we moved he started staying gone from 4 am until 2 in the afternoon with his buddy leaving me alone I address how lonely I was but still continued to leave me alone I go to jail he moves out the next day and into his buddies home who he shared with another woman he never came to see me left me 13 dollars in 32 days and took 4 calls just a couple days before I got out. But I am at a lose. Which I expected. By 9:00 pm he still wasnt home, so I called him. Okay, well here goes. We spent many hours talking and spare life stories. What is holding you back from walking out of your marriage? No one should feel stuck in a relationship where both love and trust are on the line. I worry, he might be cheating on me as well (reaching out to other women). Help. But recently I found out that hes been texting one of his exs and he knows that I dont like her due to some things in the past. One of our children is 14 and he is a huge help. I hope it helps. I dont want to fight with him. Its really THAT simple. was your husband not responsible (money wise, or family wise)? Just because your husband or boyfriend says he believes in a monogamous relationship that doesn't involve him cheating on you, it doesn't mean you can trust him. consider how many times you argue or quarrel, how close is your husband to the kids, does he support in the house though is drinking? And yeah what he said is the same to what your lover does. I would like to also say he has been clean and sober for 1 year.. And that is something to be proud of.. One night at a bar we were all outside on the patio when I noticed them gone, went inside, they were dancing she had her backside to him and he was grinding all over her. Well, just recently he decides to come up to me and say that he thinks we should have an open realationship. 2. 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Hes a cheater! He has sincerely told me he loves me, is still in love with me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. pls anyone help me reply me. I guess when he stops providing Ill probably lose interest in staying with him. Thats sick and twisted, and it happens all too often! He may feel he has lost you and if you are on pain pills everyday, then he has lost you. Because i dont want to catch anything n i love him but i dont want to keep living like this. We are always together and never like being apart. When women suspect their man is cheating, the first mistake they make is launching a fact-finding mission. Your honesty will help other wives deal with their husbands lying and cheating. 3 third times a charm right. So today I do not understand why he wants to risk it while hes also trying to work it out with his wife? He had changed so much after the night he went out with her. He has had a phone relationship. did you ever just take it? Some of the things that he has done are repeat things like washing his clothes when gets home, he never washes his own clothes ever. The man is trying like Hell to cheat on you. I feel that, instead of seeing how they react during, watch them afterwards. He ofcorse acted as if it was nothing so i could him it made me feel uncomfortable. Maybe certain questions ? The internal struggle , the tug of war between disgust-rage-pain-humiliation- rejection and fear- love- desire- want- need is enough to kill you. Its a terrible situation to be in. An incident happened this weekend and I wantnto get your opinion on this. He goes to bed. Never do this! what is the best way to find out the truth? Im constantly searching for clues. ? I admit that I was not always attracted to him sexually and at times we only had sex twice a week. What you observe and what your boyfriend says to you isnt as important as what your spidey senses are telling you. Since then they have both been very sneaky and then some I ask Him why this and why that then? I felt like the STUPIDEST woman alive!! Hi I am not married, but i have been in a relationship for almost 4 years now. So we went through a bump but sorted it out, I forgave him because it was in the past and we stayed together. Its pathetic and sad. My boyfriend of 3 years has always been a very loving and sensitive partner. Its just who he is and unfortunately Im learned to accept that. Be strong sweetie. When I talked to him about this I didnt get the sense that he was lying. We live with my parents currently and I know hes not happy here (my parents are not the easiest people to live with not to mention we pay half the bills and are pretty much stuck in one room) and lately I have had this feeling that he has cheated on me. And I want the shiny red shoes now, that feel a little uncomfortable & a bit too brightbut Im going to wear them because they make me smile & laugh!! I dont have a good feeling. He was surprised, and hurt that I would entrap him. I dont like his job because he has accepted gifts from other women and is a server at an asian restaurant. My family says i should get a divorce and i am now thinking the same thing. Big mistake. Nou def shouldnt believe himonce a cheater, always a cheater in most cases. We texted frequently enough. She was fully clothed, just a selfie of herself. So he stood and never really apolygized. The only reason I found out was because I accidentally stumbled across the messages. Listen to your gut. He will buy a new fragrance or go shopping for new clothes. I guess maybe that shows youre not alone your husband isnt the only one who could be lying about cheating. Hi, im mindy im 19 and a newlywed we have been married for 3 months now, during the short period of time there has been phone calls from girls From chat lines and hes lied to me about this one girl on Facebook sayin shes a lesbian but yet he messages her saying whats up wit ur sexy a$$? He wasnt treating me like before. 5 Signs, 5 Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting, Are You in Love With a Married Man? He always go to work even weekends. You need to realize first of all there are children involved! The supply, putting people on pedestals, no empathy, no remorse, impulsive, full of shame, lack of responsibility , he is jealous of my accomplishments , envious, very envious and resentful. All I can do is give you a few things to think about, and encourage you to talk to a counselor or friend that you trust. I dont know what to do , im a stay at home mom of 3 young children, I need to make the right decision for me and for them. You express yourself quite well. They dont typically do it to have a brood of offspring from different menalthough that might be a part of the reason at a subconscious level. Her husband was a drug user and cheater. This may not be the case. at his work place. Hi all, I am with my husband since we were teenagers (17 years now) and married 7 years we have no kids. I am sick of the lies and the sad part is he almost had me buying his lies. just spruce your self up. I dont know what else to do!!!! The first step is finding trust in yourself. You are a woman, you have control in the end. Hi my name is April. he feels he was perfectly justified, and finds it absolutely unacceptable that i dont accept that he communicated with her at all hours, that he kept things a secret, that he ran off to meet her whenever she demanded etc etc. Our daughters age. Well needless to say last year the day after my daughters one year birthday party I found out that this woman was pregnant by my boyfriend. But.my heart is broken into a million pieces whenever I think of this, I am a pretty attractive girl, in a decent shape and do everything he asks me sexually. Theyll already wonder where their dad is, and a crying mom will only worry them. I really resented the idea that she seemed to be placing herself of great importance and was really his Number One Girl and I was some kind of consolation prize. Perhaps he cheated because he felt you withheld sex; however, youre likely going to want to work at your marriage before youre intimate with him again. When you ask people for advice, you are asking them to judge your situation. Required fields are marked *. He says he was depressed in him being molested once by his older brother.i just found this out. He never did. If you feel like your man is a lying cheat, look for signs to see if he falls in the catagory of NARCISSISM. I know its wrong to go through his phone but I had a gut feeling that this was going on I dont know what to do or how to confront him about this. Get out. He reacted instantly saying hed forgotten and reached up to the closet, and produced these beautiful, sexy clothes hed bought me, and a bottle of my new favorite perfume. My wife told me (a few times actually) I dont mind if you cheat on me, just make sure I never find out, I think the really point here is dont make me FEEL like you are. If he is involved with someone the investigator will find out within the first week which means you wont have to shell out a lot of money. Just remember, if Jay-Z can cheat on Beyonc, then any man has the capability to cheat. Woman, you need to pack his stuff up and send him to the left! He had the ring on the finger, true, but you have no morales if you cheat with him. He did not answer his phone, so I called her phone and asked where he was. So, your future husband may not be lying about cheating (unless of course you believe that visiting a cheating website is cheating, which I do). You have to protect Yourself, as he seems to be giving you mixed feelings. Hi, I read your comments and stories and i just want to share mine. (He has a very chill job and usually wore sweats) well Up until 3 weeks ago. Patty get your kids and get OUTTA THERE!!!! His name might be on the deed but it was his that choose to cheat, so it should also be him that goes to stay in a hotel. A piece of advice i know its hard to deal this kind of situation but you need to be more patient. They come into the house as soon I leave and they soil the bed lenons they tear my stuff up and steal whatever they can. I have been married for 5 years. He came out and told me he apologized said it was only one time and he felt so bad afterwards he didnt know what to do. I know these arent healthy reasons to stay, but knowing he has Narcisstic Behavior Disorder, makes it easier. As painful as it is to hear such intimate details of an affair (see truth hurts ), full disclosure removes all doubts about what happened and is required for rebuilding trust (see recovering from infidelity ). I hope you do. Am I jumping the gun here? I found out while I was at church on Sundays he was at her house, smoking crack, helping her with bills, bringing her to the laundry matt, etc. I broke it off. If you have children, you do not want to show them this as an acceptable way to treat people, or allow yourself to be treated. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Laurie .-= Laurie Pawlik-Kienlens last blog post10 Tips for Impressing a First Date by Cooking Dinner at Home =-. Baloney. The more they know you suspect or know the more they will try and hide it and the harder it will be for them to get caught! My husband travels for work and at the moment is traveling more because of a project he was nominated to be in. I just want him to be honest. He swears im the only woman he loves and wants. Ever, even when we were on the outs. While Im in pain he continues to talk to her and other females he continued for another month he stop when he felt like it he did not stop because it hurt me Ive thought about leaving Im learning how to forgive slowly.. but i do not forget.. I only knew 1 of the girlsshes 19, young and ditzy and she introduced me to the others but this new best friend thinks that I am the rudest person shes ever met because of the hospital incident. We are now on the process of getting a divorce. Was never really a caring parent. I was doing christmas. Do you realy want to do this, those are the question you should ask yourself also? The same country he was last stationed, so he could get his stuff and orders. I eventually get pregnant for the 3rd time with our daughter who is now going on 4 months. Anyhow, any man that cheats while his partner is pregnant simply cannot be called a man. My Mother passed away only last week and now I have this to deal with. So him and this guy was curious I guess. The way you apporach a man about it is not accusing, however actually asking him why? Sounds to me like you DO have proof and you are in denial. It sounds that way on a lot of these comments actually. The blaming me part, denying everything until you find out. Id really appreciate it thank you. As a christian you should tell the truth and who know the truth may set eveyone free and you can have him. Power, opportunity, money increases testosterone. Love yourself! We were in our teens when we got married and I do believe he loves me. So this first girl, I assume they met in the beginning of this year. We are married for 4 years, but we are together for 7 years. Your grandma on your moms side? And Signs He Does, Why Do Guys Like Anal? One evening I went to a local store and I saw his large work truck parked there and her van was parked just behind him. Weve been together for 12 years, and he was my first, so I was not so much hurt as afraid that I would never be able to stand up on my own two feet if he leaves. Something was different. We had almost no physical intimacy (holding hands, kissing, etc) 4. You will also want to consider that opening a relationship with another man out of hurt or frustration will cause further damage to your relationship and make you look bad in the end regardless of what he has done. And talk to him. I was starting to get suspicious so I then asked my friend Amy if she would take me to her place to see if she had gotten home okay and to convince me that I am just scared of getting hurt again by another man. If you have family or friends that can help and be supportive in the meantime while you try and get things together so that you can stand on your own 2 feet, that is something you should really consider. I believed and trusted him. On my way in I ran in to a mutual friend who asked me where my husband was. He did all the bull.. your crazy that woman is a whore. In my opinion hearing it from him myself is the only sense of relief you'll get. If youre still struggling after a time, its more than likely that your marriage cannot be saved. He wouldnt talk to me for 10 days. We allow things and behavior we know that we should not. @ Eya, I hear youyou make some good points.. and yes, it is my feeling that he has cheated on me, even if only emotionally but just to clarify some maybes you mentioned: It was certainly not his dream job thats for sure. Yes, it will be horrible to hear but, when it comes to unfaithfulness, its best to know everything. Song Title: What did I do? hear @ URL: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZp8u_vGgYo, My hubby is chreating,I know he is lieing to my face.I know I been cheating on him. That he wasnt happy etc. (he is dead wrong) Im tired of being tired of being tired ,he causes so much stress .he tells me all the time that he does nothing to hurt me and to see the women on his viewed post nothing but bold face lies . And this hurts me so bad that it is destroying me as a person and a mother. how old is the kids to acept daddy is not with us? He said a woman at work pulled her pants down in front of him and he thought about itnow when he kisses me or we are intimate it feels different and also wants me to do things a certain way or differentim not sure how i should feelfyi what ever hes wanted to try i was more than willing but all of a sudden im not doing enough.i would love your advice. If he disrespects you, that is his bad and in him. Feel free to share your stories and suspicions below! I love him so much. And, why even ten years later does it become so important to know if he had sex? We all are asking the same question why ???? Driver calls this the belly button rule.When were telling the truth and are with people we like, admire, and trust, we face our belly buttons towards them. Im glad you spoke up! Then, we broke it off for about 9 mnths, for other reasons, and in the meantime, she moved to where we live because this is where she is originally from and she and her husband divorced. All of this happened 2 years ago after we had our baby. Thanks for the book suggestion! It hurts me to read everyones storiesbut I have to say, it did help knowing there are others, like myself, that are going through very similar situations. So later also in workig hours he gets a text from his brother, I open it and its more pornographic videos. We have 2 children together which are now teens. hi! When I confronted him he told me you are going to believe her instead of me? He has told you what he needs to consider the situation - respect that and give him space instead of forcing him to deal with the hurt at your pace and insistence. We go out of town from time to time for training. Thank you for your comments. did you not say anything and sneak around looking for a unknown mistress? I found texts from a local number talking about hooking up. 2. He doesnt run away when I bring things up but I can tell he doesnt really want to talk about it either yet he listens and doesnt get crazed. 5 years after, for this year to be exact, i happened to brows his facebook history, there i saw that hes been checking her facebook profile almost every month but when i confronted him, he didnt get angry but told me that there was nothing between them. I dot want to tell him that I have been on his messages and skype, I know I crossed the line. I wish this could be shown to all women considering having a relationship with a married man. Now that his horrible step-father is dead, my husband has all those awful weeds coming up fom all the dysfuntion. but im learning to be happy with myself, my 2 boys and have good friends :) if yall hear me! I said..why cant you date me NOW! Well I posted a Meme on my snapchat saying its sad we live in a generation where a female will pass up on a single man just to pursue a married man bc she likes the way he treats his wife. other woman: No I havent but, my boss has already given me those days off. The majority of women Ive had sex with were married or in a LTR. Witch makes me think if hes having a affair that its not physical but emotional. Trust me, there is a man for you. Hes asked what can he do to fix this. This will hurt, but it is good for you, as youll want to know all that that hes been up to whether its emotional cheating with messaging, just meeting for drinks and kissing or whether its turned into a full sexual affair. You seem to be a very loving person, with hopes for a wonderful family. To avoid a confrontation. Signs your relationship is over, plus help deciding how to move on after a breakup. Then from activity log I can see who he sent friend requests, who he deleted. i pushed him out from my flat and he kick the door and got broken. After few months passed i heard the mother of his 2 children is pregnant for him. This is not the first time that Ive caught him texting/ flirting with other women. I have asked him multiple times if I was what he really wanted and if I wasnt I would be okay with it. I understand your pain and where I dont have any answers for you, I do have my own story. I will pray for God to give you strength. Still havnt gone on a date that hes planned. you dont like the guy? Be wise. Its not only in the nature of man to have multiple partners. because Ive been cheated on and I know how it feels. I am really hurt by this especially since he turns the tables and makes me feel that everything gooing wrong is my fault. Example: Ill bring many smiles to your life. Please dont. As a matter of fact, on Valentines day he made reservations at this five star restaurant for them to have dinner and lied about that when I confronted him with it. Id also like to add that therapy and books are wonderful way to get insight on this issue but a real discussion is much more effective with people who dont know you personally and will not be bias or possibly because you are paying for their expertise. If he doesnt live with you, ask him to go back to his own apartment in order to give yourself space to think. this set off many alarms. Always believe your husbands nonverbal cues, especially if you suspect hes lying about cheating. I applaud you for even. No he has a secret password for his phone. We split up for over a month 2 this day I do not no were he stayed during that time we moved he started staying gone from 4 am until 2 in the afternoon with his buddy leaving me alone I address how lonely I was but still continued to leave me alone I go to jail he moves out the next day and into his buddies home who he shared with another woman he never came to see me left me 13 dollars in 32 days and took 4 calls just a couple days before I got out. But I am at a lose. Which I expected. By 9:00 pm he still wasnt home, so I called him. Okay, well here goes. We spent many hours talking and spare life stories. What is holding you back from walking out of your marriage? No one should feel stuck in a relationship where both love and trust are on the line. I worry, he might be cheating on me as well (reaching out to other women). Help. But recently I found out that hes been texting one of his exs and he knows that I dont like her due to some things in the past. One of our children is 14 and he is a huge help. I hope it helps. I dont want to fight with him. Its really THAT simple. was your husband not responsible (money wise, or family wise)? Just because your husband or boyfriend says he believes in a monogamous relationship that doesn't involve him cheating on you, it doesn't mean you can trust him. consider how many times you argue or quarrel, how close is your husband to the kids, does he support in the house though is drinking? And yeah what he said is the same to what your lover does. I would like to also say he has been clean and sober for 1 year.. And that is something to be proud of.. One night at a bar we were all outside on the patio when I noticed them gone, went inside, they were dancing she had her backside to him and he was grinding all over her. Well, just recently he decides to come up to me and say that he thinks we should have an open realationship. 2. 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